Sacrosanct Secrets.
‘’வலியார்முன் தன்னை நினைக்க தான் தன்னின்
மெலியார்மேல் செல்லு மிடத்து’’
'’Valiyaar mun, thannai ninaika thaaan thannin,
Meliyaarmel sellumidathu’’
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Meaning -When a man is about to rush upon those who are weaker than himself, let him remember how he has stood (trembling) before those who are stronger than himself.
With that foreword from the great Thirukurral, I’d love to start off this article where I will try to touch upon a few virtues which according to me are sacrosanct.
Though according to me, speaking up is a virtue, I always stress upon sharper listening, as I am a strong believer of the adage, “when intelligence talks, wisdom listens”
If you have read the above thirukurral and its meaning, It will not be difficult to relate more easily with what is about to come. I had a very casual conversation with one of my friend, who was a little upset over something, and I gave him an advice, or a mere suggestion, which wasn’t taken in the right sense and he retorted back saying, “It is more irritating when you give such free advises”, though I took it in a lighter sense of the moment, I thought of taking it a little deeper with how our human minds work, when certain things don’t go our way and how we react instead of responding.
In order to get over with it, I thought of putting front a few topics which one must try to avoid being discussed, at least till it is accomplished.
Don’t reveal your most ambitious plans- Yes, every plan has its own holes, and when you reveal it, most of the times you try to stick to it, and you get struck. The chances are, it might also not be yours anymore, remember – it is never a secret once it leaves your mouth.
Don’t deliberately share information about any good or generous deeds or charitable work that you’ve done. The greatest virtue lies in doing something good without hope of recognition. When you share such, it will definitely be perceived as you are boasting and your altruism will be seen as your need for being praised. Do you really need it?
Don’t share to others, the secrets of your lifestyle. Every one of us undergoes this transformation phase while we tend to stop doing something, which was a habit, or begin something which we need not have or wouldn’t have. Yeah, you must be able to relate it with your own self, don’t you? The emotional condition needs to be harmonious, it cannot be let to be perceived as a sign as it is not.
It’s never worth revealing any conflicts or problems in your family life to others. Always bear in mind: the less you divulge such secrets about your family to others, the stronger it will be. Such things can only ever be resolved within the privacy of your own home, between loved ones. The more you complain to others about them the harder they will be to overcome.
You have to ramshackle the barriers to bring out a balance in your mind- and how can you possibly do it?
Don’t talk about all the unpleasant things you’ve heard people say or do. Just as it’s possible to get your clothes dirty, you can also soil your mind. And the person who recounts all the foolish and awful things he hears and sees going on in the world as soon as he gets home is no different from the one who forgets to take of his shoes when he walks through the door.
SO, this leaves me, as well as you with a big question as to what is that one has to talk!! I have found the same question arising in my mind, after I completed writing this.
மெலியார்மேல் செல்லு மிடத்து’’
'’Valiyaar mun, thannai ninaika thaaan thannin,
Meliyaarmel sellumidathu’’
===================================================================
Meaning -When a man is about to rush upon those who are weaker than himself, let him remember how he has stood (trembling) before those who are stronger than himself.
With that foreword from the great Thirukurral, I’d love to start off this article where I will try to touch upon a few virtues which according to me are sacrosanct.
Though according to me, speaking up is a virtue, I always stress upon sharper listening, as I am a strong believer of the adage, “when intelligence talks, wisdom listens”
If you have read the above thirukurral and its meaning, It will not be difficult to relate more easily with what is about to come. I had a very casual conversation with one of my friend, who was a little upset over something, and I gave him an advice, or a mere suggestion, which wasn’t taken in the right sense and he retorted back saying, “It is more irritating when you give such free advises”, though I took it in a lighter sense of the moment, I thought of taking it a little deeper with how our human minds work, when certain things don’t go our way and how we react instead of responding.
In order to get over with it, I thought of putting front a few topics which one must try to avoid being discussed, at least till it is accomplished.
Don’t reveal your most ambitious plans- Yes, every plan has its own holes, and when you reveal it, most of the times you try to stick to it, and you get struck. The chances are, it might also not be yours anymore, remember – it is never a secret once it leaves your mouth.
Don’t deliberately share information about any good or generous deeds or charitable work that you’ve done. The greatest virtue lies in doing something good without hope of recognition. When you share such, it will definitely be perceived as you are boasting and your altruism will be seen as your need for being praised. Do you really need it?
Don’t share to others, the secrets of your lifestyle. Every one of us undergoes this transformation phase while we tend to stop doing something, which was a habit, or begin something which we need not have or wouldn’t have. Yeah, you must be able to relate it with your own self, don’t you? The emotional condition needs to be harmonious, it cannot be let to be perceived as a sign as it is not.
It’s never worth revealing any conflicts or problems in your family life to others. Always bear in mind: the less you divulge such secrets about your family to others, the stronger it will be. Such things can only ever be resolved within the privacy of your own home, between loved ones. The more you complain to others about them the harder they will be to overcome.
You have to ramshackle the barriers to bring out a balance in your mind- and how can you possibly do it?
Don’t talk about all the unpleasant things you’ve heard people say or do. Just as it’s possible to get your clothes dirty, you can also soil your mind. And the person who recounts all the foolish and awful things he hears and sees going on in the world as soon as he gets home is no different from the one who forgets to take of his shoes when he walks through the door.
SO, this leaves me, as well as you with a big question as to what is that one has to talk!! I have found the same question arising in my mind, after I completed writing this.
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